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Improving Your Sex Life:  How to Be Spontaneous

Are you looking to improve your sex life? If you are, you may have already heard that being spontaneous is advised. Spontaneity often leads it an increase in interest and an increase in satisfaction, in terms of intimacy. Unfortunately, some men and women find being spontaneous a lot easier said than done. If you are one of those individuals, please continue reading on for some helpful tips.

One of the many ways that you can be spontaneous is by not waiting for your partner to initiate sex. Unfortunately, many women wait for their husbands or boyfriends to get sex started. Why wait? You shouldn’t. In fact, did you know that your partner may be hoping that you start showing more interest in being intimate with them? What better way to do so than to initiate sex yourself?

A creative way to be spontaneous, where sex and intimacy is concerned, is by using text messages. If you and your partner have and use cell phones, send sexy and seductive text messages to them. In addition to text messages, you can also call your partner or send love notes with them when they walk out the door.

As previously stated, there are some individuals who find it difficult to be spontaneous. Parents are often one of those individuals. Even if you are a parent who has children in the house, there are a still a number of ways that you can be spontaneous, in terms of intimacy with you partner. Did you just put your children down for bed? Jump on your partner, literally, as soon as your kids leave the room. Most parents want to sit down and relax after their kids have gone to bed, but show your partner that you have other things on your mind.

Having sex somewhere other than the bed or the bedroom is another way to be spontaneous with your partner. If you are a parent who has kids in the house, just be careful. Don’t have sex outside of the bedroom when they may be awake at night and don’t be too loud or you may have an uncomfortable situation on yours hands.

As for where you can have sex outside of the bedroom, use your creativity. Where do you want to have sex? What locations would allow you to try new positions that just can’t be done in a bed? In addition to being intimate in places like on the couch, in a closet, in the bathroom, or on the kitchen table, consider going outside of the home as well, like to a hotel.

Speaking of getting intimate outside of the home, surprise your partner. You can do this by booking a night at a hotel in town. Make sure you choose one that has romantic rooms or an onsite hot tub or swimming pool. If you are a parent, arrange childcare for your children first, like by calling on a trusted friend or family member. Don’t tell your partner about your plans until you are ready to leave, as being spontaneous involves surprising them.

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